Tell us a bit about who you are and what you do. Please include your business name and your role.
My name is Alexandria Montgomery, and I am a married mother of four. I am a Doctor of Nursing Practice and Certified Nurse-Midwife. I have been a nurse-midwife for nearly 8 years. I currently work with Baby+Company Charlotte. Baby+Company is a freestanding network of birth centers providing out of hospital birth services, well woman care, childbirth education, and wellness classes.
What prompted you to get into this business? Was there a particular revelation or experience that compelled you to move forward with your plans?
Birth is amazing and addictive. Since I could not afford to have 100 children, I thought the next best thing would be to help other families in birth. If you have ever attended a birth you will know what I mean! I remember being young and telling my aunt that I love babies, and I want to deliver babies. My aunt said “so you want to be a midwife” – so that’s what I did. Having all my births attended by midwives compelled me to move forward to become a nurse-midwife myself.
How many years of experience do you have in either your business or the baby/mommy industry? And yes, parenting definitely counts!
I have been a nurse-midwife for nearly 8 years, but my oldest daughter is 21—so I guess that counts too!
What’s your favorite thing about working in the baby/mommy industry? What fuels your love for it?
The sense of community, becoming and remaining a part of a person’s life forever. Seeing people become parents over and over again fuels my love for it—and sometimes we get tasty gifts. Job perk.
What baby/mommy product do you recommend the most? What are some of your other favorites? Why?
I like to tell women they only need BOOBS and BOUNTY to take care of a baby. However, there are so many products out there. I say you need the products that help you be the parent you imagine or reimagine yourself to be. If using paper plates help you spend more time with your children, then plant a tree and use paper plates.
What is your number one piece of advice for new moms?
Do not judge the process. To judge the process means to compare your way to someone else’s, and there is more than one way to raise a baby.
It’s okay to go back to work.
It’s okay to make mistakes, children rarely remember the first 2 years anyway!
Do not judge the first 3 months of breastfeeding.
What would you say is the hardest part about being a parent? If you aren’t a parent yourself, what do you think is the hardest part?
The hardest part about being a parent these days is social media. Being able to see snap shots of other people parenting – makes me sometimes second guess how I am parenting. My children also think they want the life that other people have instead of the life I provide for them. Trying to remind myself and my children that social media is often the Photoshop of life—we put in what we want and remove the blemishes.
In your experience, what helps the most in the first 12 weeks postpartum?
Having a support system. Even if you don’t need it—the thought that if you needed to call, you can. Knowing that you have a village waiting to help and support you at the drop of a hat. Also knowing that there are women going through the same thing you are. Finding a support group is so important. We offer a new mom’s group at Baby+Company just for this purpose.
Share your respectful insights on a hot button topic (bottle vs. nursing, co-sleeping, pacifiers, paternity leave, or any topic you’re most passionate about).
I do not have insight on a specific topic, but I will comment: You are the only person that has to live forever with the decisions you make. The decisions for yourself, your children and your family. Nursing, co-sleeping, family leave whatever the choice—let it be your choice. It would be sadder to live with the consequence of action taken based on a choice you made because of someone else. Make your choice for you and your family—not based upon societal pressures or norms.
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