It’s time for another round of Mom Chat here at BettyRuth! Today, we are so excited to talk with a few of our Mom friends about how lifestyle changes that they have seen from pre-baby to post-baby!
Mom to a 2 year old little girl
Principal Dancer for the Charlotte Ballet!
Raiser of 5 chickens (Do the readers of BettyRuth get free eggs since we know this now?!)
Mom to a 2.5 year old and 2 stepdaughters
Wore the same dress she met her husband in to her baby shower (OK fit Mama, give us all your secrets!)
Mom to a 6 month old baby girl
Lived in NYC while working for ELLE Magazine & Gilt Groupe (Anyone else jealous of this like we are?!)
Jamie: The biggest lifestyle change post-baby was lessening the amount of entertaining we did. My husband and I used to host dinner parties and BBQs regularly. Since most of these gatherings were fairly loud and went late into the night — two things that don’t work well with a little one — we’ve exchanged these parties for daytime playdates!
Melissa: Pre-baby to post-baby, my priorities in regards to my career changed drastically. I worked in outside sales which required a lot of overnight travel. I never thought twice about going to Charleston or Asheville and really enjoyed being able to attend dinners and socialize with clients. However, post-baby, I was driving back from an event in Atlanta one day when I received a call from school saying my baby had a sudden & high temperature. In that drive home, I decided it was time to look for a job closer to home that didn’t require the travel so that I could be near my little one if and when she needs me!
Russell: Pre-baby I was a full-time worker bee. Now, I stay home with the baby. It’s been quite an adjustment going from corporate world to this new role!
Jamie: I went back to work 12 weeks after my daughter was born. As a professional ballet dancer, my job requires a lot of mental, physical, and emotional focus. I get to spend a large portion of my time playing different characters which I used to do before I was ever a mom! While I love being a fairy queen, an evil villain, a princess, or a sexy secretary as I did in my pre-baby life, I sure love coming home to play mom every day!
Melissa: I still love to take “me” time! Manicure/pedicure days are wonderful and having a great dinner or wine date with my friends are ways for me to get self-care. I have found that working out also helps me stay level-headed and be a better mom for my daughter!
Russell: To be honest, I haven’t really gotten there yet. My baby is still pretty new and I am home with her every day. I’m looking forward to the day where I feel like myself again! That being said, I did get a babysitter once so that I could go get a pedicure and it was so nice!
Jamie: I feel as if my lifestyle has changed way less than I expected it would! I can still do all the things I enjoyed doing pre-baby. I just know they take more planning now!
Melissa: Some of both. The struggle to find a balance between family and work has been way harder than I thought it would be. I sometimes feel that I am only halfway successful at each of them. I find that few people actually share how tough this juggling act can be, so I feel it is very helpful to have a few close friend that I can confide in. It helps us all realize that we are doing the best that we can and that we are all humans!
Russell: WAY MORE.
Jamie: When you have a child, you don’t have to give up anything about your old self. Instead, you enhance you were. Motherhood brings more strength, compassion, love, and joy to your heart which only adds to the greatness of who you were pre-baby! You might not be getting as much sleep as you used to, but that comes & goes. Focus on embracing the energized times so that you can enjoy every moment & all the milestones of your little one.
Melissa: Make time for yourself so that you can be more present and happy with your little one! Your children want a happy and supportive mom & sometimes that means that you have to step back and enjoy some quiet time yourself first. Schedule some time into your calendar so that your significant other can support your “me” time and so that it doesn’t get cancelled unnecessarily!
Russell: I highly suggest making sure to save one night every few weeks to have a date night with your husband!
To all of our mom or mom-to-be friends: while babies bring lots of joy to your life, remember that it’s important to take care of yourself too! You can’t serve anyone with an empty cup, so be sure to replenish your sanity when you can!
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